DEAR ABBY: I’ve an in depth pal who simply currently had a toddler with crucial properly being points. Sadly, we reside on reverse sides of the nation, and I’m unable to afford to fly available on the market. I want to help, nevertheless wanting calls and texts to let her know I’m contemplating of her, I’m out of ideas.
She’s talked about plenty of situations that with the entire work of being a model new mum or dad plus the extra work involved with a child with explicit desires, she sometimes doesn’t have time to rearrange healthful meals and reverts to junk meals that she’s going to be capable to seize merely. Ordinarily, I would convey over plenty of meals to help out, nevertheless that’s unattainable to do when she’s so distant.
Restaurant reward enjoying playing cards might be an risk, nevertheless sadly she and her husband have not bought the time to go to a minimum of one. I hope chances are you’ll want completely different ideas on how I can help out from afar. — PUZZLED ABOUT HELPING
DEAR PUZZLED: Go browsing and evaluation meals provide firms inside the metropolis or metropolis the place your pal lives. Some firms ship prepared meals on a weekly basis. Different companies ship containers of nice fruits every month. However sooner than doing one thing, ASK your overwhelmed pal what she and her husband assume might be helpful fairly than try to second-guess.
DEAR ABBY: I would favor to know if there is a good method of asking my niece and her boyfriend, who’re of their mid- to late-20s, to not convey their telephones to the dinner desk? I’ve spent days getting ready for and cooking trip meals. The night time was decrease than gratifying for me because of they’ve been solely partly there, and spent most of their time texting and presumably on Fb.
It is awkward to ask an grownup to comply with good manners. Any phrases of information could be a lot appreciated. — WELL-MANNERED LADY IN THE WEST
DEAR LADY: Clarify to your niece that you simply simply spend a great deal of time, money and power on presenting these meals, and that you simply simply have been hurt and offended at their apparent lack of appreciation. It is the fact. Don’t preoccupy your self with attempting to be good otherwise you’ll weaken the message. Some households resolve this draw back by insisting their buddies place their cellphones in a basket sooner than dinner and reclaim them as they depart. (Only a thought!)
DEAR ABBY: My pal from church casually talked about that he and his partner simply currently helped themselves to plenty of buckets of sand from a nationwide park. I’m beside myself attempting to understand how they will justify pillaging a pure helpful useful resource to permit them to fake they’re on the seaside. It is previous selfish and easily plain fallacious. What can I say to steer them to return it? Are you capable of help me navigate this dialog whereas nonetheless sustaining the friendship? — SHOCKED IN HAWAII
DEAR SHOCKED: Begin by stating that there are crucial penalties for doing what he and his partner did. I ran your letter by my former personal assistant, Winni, who lives in Hawaii. She educated me that, according to the Division of Land and Pure Assets, stealing sand from the seashores is in opposition to the regulation, punishable with fines of upwards of $100,000.
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