DEAR ABBY: I’ve a detailed buddy who not too long ago had a child with severe well being issues. Sadly, we reside on reverse sides of the nation, and I can not afford to fly on the market. I wish to assist, however in need of calls and texts to let her know I am pondering of her, I am out of concepts.
She’s talked about a number of occasions that with all of the work of being a brand new father or mother plus the additional work concerned with a baby with particular wants, she usually does not have time to arrange wholesome meals and reverts to junk meals that she will seize simply. Ordinarily, I would carry over a number of meals to assist out, however that is inconceivable to do when she’s so distant.
Restaurant present playing cards could be an choice, however sadly she and her husband do not have the time to go to 1. I am hoping you may need different concepts on how I might help out from afar. — PUZZLED ABOUT HELPING
DEAR PUZZLED: Go surfing and analysis meals supply companies within the metropolis or city the place your buddy lives. Some companies ship ready meals on a weekly foundation. Different corporations ship packing containers of great fruits each month. However earlier than doing something, ASK your overwhelmed buddy what she and her husband suppose is likely to be useful quite than attempt to second-guess.
DEAR ABBY: I would prefer to know if there’s a good means of asking my niece and her boyfriend, who’re of their mid- to late-20s, to not carry their telephones to the dinner desk? I’ve spent days getting ready for and cooking vacation meals. The night was lower than gratifying for me as a result of they have been solely partly there, and spent most of their time texting and presumably on Fb.
It is awkward to ask an grownup to observe good manners. Any phrases of knowledge will probably be a lot appreciated. — WELL-MANNERED LADY IN THE WEST
DEAR LADY: Clarify to your niece that you just spend plenty of time, cash and energy on presenting these meals, and that you just have been damage and offended at their obvious lack of appreciation. It is the reality. Don’t preoccupy your self with attempting to be good or you’ll weaken the message. Some households clear up this drawback by insisting their company place their cellphones in a basket earlier than dinner and reclaim them as they depart. (Only a thought!)
DEAR ABBY: My buddy from church casually talked about that he and his spouse not too long ago helped themselves to a number of buckets of sand from a nationwide park. I am beside myself attempting to grasp how they will justify pillaging a pure useful resource to allow them to fake they’re on the seashore. It is past egocentric and simply plain flawed. What can I say to persuade them to return it? Are you able to assist me navigate this dialog whereas nonetheless sustaining the friendship? — SHOCKED IN HAWAII
DEAR SHOCKED: Begin by mentioning to your folks that there are severe penalties for doing what he and his spouse did. I ran your letter by my former private assistant, Winni, who lives in Hawaii. She knowledgeable me that, in response to the Division of Land and Pure Assets, stealing sand from the seashores shouldn’t be solely in opposition to the legislation, but additionally punishable with fines of upwards of $100,000.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.