DEAR ABBY: I’ve an in depth pal who just lately had a child with critical well being issues. Sadly, we dwell on reverse sides of the nation, and I am unable to afford to fly on the market. I need to assist, however wanting calls and texts to let her know I am pondering of her, I am out of concepts.
She’s talked about a number of occasions that with all of the work of being a brand new dad or mum plus the additional work concerned with a baby with particular wants, she typically does not have time to organize wholesome meals and reverts to junk meals that she will seize simply. Ordinarily, I might convey over a couple of meals to assist out, however that is inconceivable to do when she’s so far-off.
Restaurant reward playing cards can be an choice, however sadly she and her husband haven’t got the time to go to at least one. I am hoping you might need different concepts on how I can assist out from afar.
— PUZZLED ABOUT HELPING
DEAR PUZZLED: Go surfing and analysis meals supply companies within the metropolis or city the place your pal lives. Some companies ship ready meals on a weekly foundation. Different firms ship packing containers of fantastic fruits each month. However earlier than doing something, ASK your overwhelmed pal what she and her husband assume could be useful relatively than attempt to second-guess.
DEAR ABBY: I might wish to know if there’s a good method of asking my niece and her boyfriend, who’re of their mid- to late-20s, to not convey their telephones to the dinner desk? I’ve spent days making ready for and cooking vacation meals. The night was lower than pleasurable for me as a result of they had been solely partly there, and spent most of their time texting and presumably on Fb.
It is awkward to ask an grownup to apply good manners. Any phrases of knowledge might be a lot appreciated.
— WELL-MANNERED LADY IN THE WEST
DEAR LADY: Clarify to your niece that you just spend a variety of time, cash and energy on presenting these meals, and that you just had been damage and offended at their obvious lack of appreciation. It is the reality. Don’t preoccupy your self with attempting to be good or you’ll weaken the message. Some households resolve this drawback by insisting their company place their cellphones in a basket earlier than dinner and reclaim them as they depart. (Only a thought!)
DEAR ABBY: My pal from church casually talked about that he and his spouse just lately helped themselves to a number of buckets of sand from a nationwide park. I am beside myself attempting to grasp how they will justify pillaging a pure useful resource to allow them to faux they’re on the seaside. It is past egocentric and simply plain flawed. What can I say to persuade them to return it? Are you able to assist me navigate this dialog whereas nonetheless sustaining the friendship?
— SHOCKED IN HAWAII
DEAR SHOCKED: Begin by stating to your pals that there are critical penalties for doing what he and his spouse did. I ran your letter by my former private assistant, Winni, who lives in Hawaii. She knowledgeable me that, in response to the Division of Land and Pure Assets, stealing sand from the seashores will not be solely towards the legislation, but additionally punishable with fines of upwards of $100,000.