DEAR ABBY: I’ve an in depth pal who simply recently had a baby with essential properly being points. Sadly, we dwell on reverse sides of the nation, and I’m unable to afford to fly available on the market. I would like to help, nonetheless wanting calls and texts to let her know I’m pondering of her, I’m out of ideas.
She’s talked about a lot of events that with all the work of being a model new dad or mum plus the extra work involved with a child with explicit needs, she sometimes doesn’t have time to prepare healthful meals and reverts to junk meals that she is going to seize merely. Ordinarily, I’d convey over a few meals to help out, nonetheless that’s inconceivable to do when she’s so far-off.
Restaurant reward enjoying playing cards could be an alternative, nonetheless sadly she and her husband have not received the time to go to a minimum of one. I hope you may want completely different ideas on how I can help out from afar.
— PUZZLED ABOUT HELPING
DEAR PUZZLED: Go browsing and evaluation meals provide corporations inside the metropolis or metropolis the place your pal lives. Some corporations ship prepared meals on a weekly basis. Different corporations ship packing containers of unbelievable fruits every month. However sooner than doing one thing, ASK your overwhelmed pal what she and her husband assume might be helpful comparatively than try to second-guess.
DEAR ABBY: I’d want to know if there is a good methodology of asking my niece and her boyfriend, who’re of their mid- to late-20s, to not convey their telephones to the dinner desk? I’ve spent days preparing for and cooking trip meals. The night time was decrease than pleasurable for me on account of they’d been solely partly there, and spent most of their time texting and presumably on Fb.
It is awkward to ask an grownup to use good manners. Any phrases of data may be lots appreciated.
— WELL-MANNERED LADY IN THE WEST
DEAR LADY: Clarify to your niece that you just simply spend quite a lot of time, money and vitality on presenting these meals, and that you just simply had been injury and offended at their apparent lack of appreciation. It is the fact. Don’t preoccupy your self with trying to be good otherwise you’ll weaken the message. Some households resolve this disadvantage by insisting their firm place their cellphones in a basket sooner than dinner and reclaim them as they depart. (Only a thought!)
DEAR ABBY: My pal from church casually talked about that he and his partner simply recently helped themselves to a lot of buckets of sand from a nationwide park. I’m beside myself trying to know how they may justify pillaging a pure helpful useful resource to permit them to fake they’re on the seaside. It is previous selfish and easily plain flawed. What can I say to steer them to return it? Are you capable of help me navigate this dialog whereas nonetheless sustaining the friendship?
— SHOCKED IN HAWAII
DEAR SHOCKED: Begin by stating to your buddies that there are essential penalties for doing what he and his partner did. I ran your letter by my former non-public assistant, Winni, who lives in Hawaii. She educated me that, in response to the Division of Land and Pure Assets, stealing sand from the seashores won’t be solely in the direction of the laws, however moreover punishable with fines of upwards of $100,000.